Our Little Boys Need Heroes

Recently he’s been tough. During the day, his brothers and I tip-toe around him. Worried we may get lashed out at. Wondering who his selfishness will attack next.

He gets it honest. I am selfish at my core. I feel entitled to certain things. I want comfort and rest and to eat whatever I want and be skinny.

Welcome to the world of sin, son. Welcome to the battle.

But it hit the fan the other day. And it was time to stand firm. Humbly. To open up the Word and fight this…again.

“Son, do you know what a hero does?” “He fights for something.”

“Yes. Heroes fight for those they love. They sacrifice what they want for others.”

(He was starting to listen.)

“Why was King Tirian a hero?” “He was willing to die for the people in Narnia.”

“Why was Harry Potter a hero?”  “He was willing to die for his friends.”

“Why was Rose (from The Last Jedi) a hero?” “She was willing to die for Finn.”

(Now he was really listening…Conversations that start with kings or the Winter Soldier or Malfoy get a lot of attention around here.)

“Yes. But you know the real hero is. You know who did die for us.”

“And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.” (Philippians 2:8)

“You want to follow Him? Then you sacrifice. For your brothers. For your sister. For your friends. For those you don’t know.”

I believe our little boys need heroes. They need to see sacrifice. They need to see bravery.

And yes, we protect their innocence and screen what they see, but we can’t deprive them of what it means to be a man. Of what it means to stand up for what you believe in. Or lay it all down for someone else.

We can choose to see today’s media as an enemy. Or we can choose to see it as a tool.

All the while, praying for wisdom, having hard conversations, and believing that the real “Hero,” the One who gave up everything for our precious children, will patiently and lovingly draw them to Himself.


The Last Jedi was a hit with the cousins!




Little Boys and Super Heroes

We have four boys. Their room is scattered with Nerf guns, Legos, Star Wars posters, and so on.

Recently we’ve entered the Super Hero realm. Captain America. The Winter Soldier. Iron Man. My knowledge is growing each day.

Then there are the movies. How much is too much?

There’s a balance. Can we ever fully protect them from everything? And could it possibly become a disservice when we hold too tightly? When we overreact and under explain?  Could we be encouraging them to rebel?

You see…We want our boys to be looking for a hero. We want them to pull for the good guy. We want them to know what it is to be a man. And that doesn’t necessarily mean muscles, a nice car, or a pretty girl.

The hero they’re looking for isn’t found in the most recent movie or comic book.

So Jeremy and I watch the movie first. We check Plugged In. Then we watch it with the boys. Often we fast forward. But most importantly, we talk.

And it ends with this…Who was the hero? What made him the hero? Do you know that everyone’s looking for a hero? Who are they looking for?

And without fail one of them gets it…Jesus is the hero.

He came with super powers, but He chose to lay them down. He came with ultimate strength, but He chose to be weak. He wasn’t just willing to die, He did die. For you. For me.

Yes, as parents we must be wise. We must protect.

But we also must prepare. We could teach our kids how to filter everything through the Gospel. How to look for Him in everything they face.

Because we are all looking for the same thing. A Hero. And we are willing to do whatever it takes to reach our boys with this message.

“Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.” (Philippians 2:5-8)

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Here’s a little snapshot of their room!